Friday 9 May 2014

100 Rules of Happiness: Rule 60

Don’t hide from your #fears. Face them! 

Fear is a powerful emotion, created to protect you from harm.  Its primal purpose is to keep you alive and safe, not to keep you from living life. When fear starts to dominates your thoughts, actions and life, it depletes your energy, generates negative emotions, clouds your self worth, prevents you from living fully and moving forward. 

You’ll find that at the bottom of every self-limiting belief and self-sabotaging behavior, lies a deeper fear of something. If left unaddressed, fear can fester, breed, attract more of what you’re afraid of, and eventually cause a lot of anxiety and distress.  The only way to overcome your fears is by accepting them. Understand them, label and explore them, instead of hiding from them. Get to the bottom of your fears, give them a expiry date and work systematically towards conquering them.


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Thursday 8 May 2014

100 Rules of Happiness: Rule 59

Upgrade your knowledge!
If you are not upgrading your #knowledge regularly, you are choosing to become outdated. Do not do that to yourself. Movement in a new direction may require some work, but it helps you grow as a person. You get to explore and learn new things that keep you relevant to your personal and professional life.  It will also increase your confidence and overall #LifeSkills, making you a more independent person. So go ahead, take your first step in the direction. You may need to upgrade your computer or technological knowledge, or learn something new in your profession, whatever it may be, just do it. Now!



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Wednesday 7 May 2014

100 Rules of Happiness: Rule 58

Celebrate Diversity!
Cultivate and enjoy the company of people who are different from you. The beauty of the universe lies in its #diversity, not homogeneity. That’s why we have so many different types of stars, galaxies, animals, birds, flowers and landscapes. It’s also why we have so many human races. Make the effort to know people from different social, cultural and religious backgrounds. Learn from your differences and share your commonalities. It will open life up, give you new perspective, depth of character, make you more tolerant, and reduce prejudice. It will also make your life a lot richer, more colorful and enjoyable. 


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Monday 5 May 2014

100 Rules of Happiness: Rule 57

Ask yourself, at this very moment, what’s an obstacle to your happiness? 
Or, if you could wake up tomorrow with an issue magically resolved, what would that issue be? Think of something personal, something that’s an obstacle to your individual life, not a broader issue like the economy or the next Prime Minister. It may be something big or seemingly small, but be very specific. Are you unhappy with your job, or an important relationship? Maybe you are overweight and it’s dragging your self esteem down or you are overwhelmed with life’s responsibilities. Whatever it may be, nail it. Identify what stands between you and happiness.  And then start working systematically to overcome that hurdle by creating change. 


Sunday 4 May 2014

100 Rules of Happiness: Rule 56

Show up!
Much of life’s successes lie in simply showing up. Grab chances to meet new people.  Go for the dinner or the birthday party or the reunion. Join someone for coffee. Drop by to say hello to someone. Make the extra effort to meet people face-to-face. It’s proven that people like and form deeper bonds with those they see often. So go make yourself present. You never know where a chance encounter could lead you. 



Wednesday 30 April 2014

100 Rule of Happiness: Rule 55


Give generously!
Giving makes you feel good about yourself, resulting in a “helper’s high.” It creates a greater sense of purpose and connection with others. It distracts you from your own existence. So go ahead & give with an open heart. Feed the neighborhood stray ,join a volunteer programme or pledge a little money each month for a cause you believe in. 


Monday 28 April 2014

100 Rules of Happiness: Rule 54

Anyone can be an expert on at least one thing. Just pick something you truly enjoy. Maybe you can make the best chicken curry, hold the highest score at a game, know every minute detail about a movie or your favorite singer.  Soak in all there is to learn & keep practicing, if needed. Being an expert at something  will bring you immense happiness & satisfaction. So get started now!




Saturday 26 April 2014

100 Rules of Happiness: Rule 53

Praise people liberally & genuinely!
Notice the good qualities of others and be generous with your compliments & praise. Keep it simple and authentic. Genuine praise will strengthen your relationships,  while cultivating mutual trust, appreciation & affection. People will perceive you as a more positive person, and you will feel good inside as well.



Friday 25 April 2014

100 Rules of Happiness: Rule 52

Declutter your life!
Shed excess baggage! Start by going through your FB list. “Unfriend” the people you can’t even remember and the ones that annoy you. Clean your cupboard. Throw out anything you have not used for over 16 months. “Lighten” your house. Give away the unnecessary things. Make space for fresh energy to flow into your life.




Thursday 24 April 2014

100 Rules of Happiness: Rule 51

Be your own cheerleader!

Yes, you need to be your own devoted fan and cheerleader. Be on your own side, be your own best friend. Build unflinching belief in yourself. Don’t sabotage yourself with negative self-talk or indulge in self destructive behaviour. Learn to love and support yourself before you can truly love and support others.

Warning: This is an internalised process. It doesn’t mean you turn into a pompous, self-praising, overbearing moron!



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Tuesday 22 April 2014

100 Rules of Happiness: Rule 50

Don’t let anyone pee on your parade!

If you really enjoy something or believe in it, go ahead and do it. No matter what others say!

If you are feeling great and your heart is filled with sunshine, avoid people who walk around with a dark cloud over their head. They will bring it over yours too!!

If you do something that makes you feel good and proud, don’t let anyone tell you it’s not good enough.


Monday 21 April 2014

100 Rules of Happiness: Rule 49


Do something special for your parents!
Remember the childhood birthday bashes your parents threw for you? The gifts they pampered you with? The love and support they gave you when you were far from the best?  Well, it’s time you did something that made them feel really special. Throw them a wonderful party, take them on a vacation to someplace they have wanted to go forever. Buy them something they really need or desire. Do something that makes their heart smile.  



Saturday 19 April 2014

100 Rules of Happiness: Rule 48

We say “No!” way too often. Now, start consciously saying “Yes” more often. Go with the flow. Start accepting more invitations. Take on more challenges, both big and small. Embrace opportunities. Say yes to situations, to new relationships, to invitations. Say yes to accepting your emotions. Simply say “yes”  to life!





How To Practice Breath Meditation

This simple meditation is like the foundation to the practice of meditation. It's also one of the simplest yet most powerful practices. 


Meditation Benefits
  • Stills the mind
  • Creates mindfulness*
  • Reduces mental chatter
  • Lowers Anxiety
  • Increases concentration
  • Lowers blood pressure and heart rate
  • Increases ability to focus
  • Helps control anger/ useful for anger management
  • Reduces and controls negative thoughts 
  • Calms you down
  • Provides a solid base for spiritual and meditative practice
* Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. It's achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. When you're mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them as good or bad. 




About the practice

The practice of meditating on the breath is one of the oldest. It dates back thousands of years. The ancient Hindus and Buddhists used this as the base for their mediative practice and it helped them  control their thoughts, create internal still, and an increased awareness of themselves, the world and spiritual truths. Meditating on your breath gives you a sort of anchor in your practice. Each time your mind starts jumping from thought to thought, bringing your awareness back to your breath creates an anchor that stops you from floating away with the distractions. This creates mental discipline and sharpens your concentration abilities. It also has a calming influence on your mind and body, thereby helping control anger and negative emotions, reduce anxiety, lower heart rate and blood pressure. This form of meditation is very useful for mental, emotional and physical health, as well as personal and spiritual growth.


When to meditate

Mediate daily  for ten to fifteen minutes in the morning and evening. If any other time suits you, that is fine as well.  Slowly increase the duration of each meditation session. It's important to be regular in order to reap the benefits of meditation.


Preparation
  • Find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed
  • You can also mediate in a car, provided you are being driven
  • Switch off your phone or put it on silent mode
  • If indoors, ensure the temperature is comfortable & the lighting is soft
  • If you are outdoors, dress for the weather and wear clothing that keeps you comfortable
  • Wear loose, comfy clothes
  • If you are not in a vehicle, get a meditation cushion or a straight backed chair


How to practice
  • Sit cross legged on the meditation cushion. If you can't then sit on the chair.
  • Keep your back straight, your shoulders level and relaxed and your chin parallel to the floor
  • Rest your hands gently on your knees, with the palms facing upwards, and the thumb and the index finger touching one another
  • Close your eyes or lower your eyes and focus on any point about 3 feet away from you
  • Loosen your muscles and relax your body
  • Breathe normally through your nose
  • Expand you stomach each time you inhale, and pull it in when you exhale. 
  • Each time you exhale, let go of all the tension in your body. 
  • Do this a few time still it gets into an easy rhythm.
  • Increase the length of each breath in and out (inhale and exhale). Start with a count of 4 for each inhale. Then 4 for each exhale. Slowly increase it to 10.
  • Thoughts will keep coming. Just let them pass. Don't go with them. Just like a mother gently returns a crawling baby back to it's warm blanket, gently take your awareness back to your breath. Start counting the duration of your breaths again.
  • Once you get comfortable with the practice, you can stop counting as you will get a better idea of the length of your breath without having to do so.
  • Then just keep your awareness on how the breath travels in and out of your body. Follow its path and notice how your body moves and reacts to it.
  • At the end, with your eyes closed, just sit still for a few moments.
  • Finally with your eyes closed, rub your hands together till they feel war. Gently place them on your eyes and fell the warmth from your hands. Slowly remove your hands from you eyes and open them.


Try not to immediately jump back into hectic activity and noise. Ideally keep a "buffer zone" of at least 10 minutes before and after your meditation to ease in and out of your practice. 

Love,
Bindiya
www.healinghideaway.in


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Thursday 17 April 2014

100 Rules of Happiness: Rule 47

Know your comfort food!
Comfort food is a gift to yourself. It’s associated with good thoughts & warm feelings,  so it improves your sense of well-being & decreases loneliness. It’s the friend who never disappoints or ditches you. It’s  a “social surrogate.” So next time you need a little emotional pick-up, don’t be ashamed to crave the crispy, salty, starchy, soft, sweet or sinful…just bite in! 



Remember not to go overboard though. If you need comfort food all the time, then you may want to look at the deeper cause for needing so much comfort. Therapy perhaps?!